It is a universal truth that a great percentage of the individuals on the face of the planet are interested in the idea of marriage and relationships. We are often eager for That Big Day, where we declare our love for one another wearing a shiny Tux or a long white dress. Some of you ladies may not even want a white dress, it could be yellow, purple or brown, your choice however I am acutely aware of growing number of dissatisfied waiting Christian singles who just want that dream husband or wife already. We all have our hopes regarding who our spouse will be, their like and dislikes and most importantly their family members. Nobody wants to be treated like Cinderella by an evil mother or father in law, it is a simple fact that we would like to get along with our spouses’ respective families.
The Valentines Love Bug.
Around this time of year (valentines) your singleness becomes more apparent as love is celebrated everywhere you turn, so let me share a little something about my experience. Even if you are in a relationship, trust me this will be a good read. Yes, I Say so! You see, I and my sisters have this #2020 #asoebi thing going on and I just can’t wait for this to manifest into reality, I’m sure you’re probably thinking that I already have a man, well you are wrong, I am as single as a pringle. Yes S-I-N-G-L-E. I sometimes feel like my husband is on the other side of the world taking his sweet time doing up his shoe laces (His pointy toe shoes)!
Faith in this waiting game.
A big lesson I have learnt is that without faith we can do or achieve nothing. Please don’t run yet, I know you hear the word faith many times in many situations but come back.
So, we know that the biblical definition of faith is as “Having belief in is stated in Hebrews 11:1, “Now faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen”. Which means we hope for the bae, even though there is no evidence of the bae, we believe that God has already prepared him or her and that he or she is around the corner.
So let’s talk about what I think we need to do as single people waiting on the Lord for our bae in the pointy shoes to come (your bae whether girl or boy can still have a pointy toe shoe).
Tips or single pringles in waiting.
We need to realise that faith does not work if it is not in God. If you have faith in your works, your beauty, your car, house, education, tallness, shortness, body, money then you have gotten it wrong. To have faith in God is to have a thriving relationship with Him. When you have a thriving relationship with him you will be able to believe his best for you and know his best for you, this include his timing, your purpose, your marriage purpose etc. moreover, your faith and believe and true relationship with God will allow you to have a standard of what you want your future spouse to be. At least, that is my experience and others around me in the Faith.
Whilst you’re single, build yourself etc. yea you have read that before, but I will jump to the other side, trusting that you know and are doing that. If you are not please, watch yourself and review where you are and where you want to be and what you are doing at all. You cannot get into a relationship and be finding yourself there, yes you may get to understand yourself ‘more’, but there is no point knowing more if you didn’t know little. You need to know yourself, and to know yourself is to have a relationship with God who has and own your blueprint.
Prayer is the key, pray for you and your future spouse, pray for the kind of people your spouse are around. Pray that they will have a good influence on him/her, pray that this people are striving in their relationships for Christ. Pray that he/she is in a spirit filled church, if he/she is not, pray that the Lord direct their path to such a church. Pray that the Lord gives him/her a good support system where he/she is able to grow even more in Christ. Pray for his/her struggles, pray for his/her strength. Pray for your relationship with him/her in faith that when you get together you will not forsake God, nor will your relationships be a detriment to your place in heaven. Pray for everything!
Be patient as God prepares you for your future spouse, I know it can feel like God is making you wait forever, however know that he is just preparing you the same way he is preparing your future spouse. When I was doing my undergraduate degree, I remember how I was praying and hoping that this guy I met would be the man I would spend the rest of my life with, as in I was ready to be his wife (not girlfriend), like I was ready in my head to the point that I was praying for his salvation that he would get closer to God but I myself was not even close to God like that. Moreover, I knew in my spirit that this man isn’t for me but did that stop my waiting for the day he would ask me to be his girlfriend? (haha). Until one day the Lord used my sister to check me, my single life and relationship. At this checking point I knew ‘I was writing my own testimony instead of allowing God to write it” by not waiting patiently on the Lord (Like my sister would say). At this point I started being more serious with God, allowing him to build me, make me a wife, break and remould me. I started enjoying my relationship with God and enjoying my singleness in Christ. With this I know I will enjoy my relationship with my spouse because I have already experienced the best relationship that can be offered.
REMEMBER: LOVE! IS ONLY FOUND IN GOD.
The best kind of love is in God, for you to know the standard of love that a man should show you, you need to know the love of God first and that all comes with a relationship with him! Also remember, sex is not the same as love! That’s a story for another day but the greatest love you can experience is from God and the love that God places in you to pour out to your spouse and vice versa. Sex does not equate to this neither does it give that love.
So, keep pressing in and have faith that at the right time when you are ready, your future spouse will find you or you will find your future spouse. I want you to know that God is faithful and if you delight yourself in the Lord he will bless you with your heart desires. Guard your heart without building walls that is not God built, let God build the wall that the wrong men will bounce off and the right man will enter. God is leading and guiding you. Rest and trust that He is perfecting everything that concerns you and He withholds no good thing from you.
KEEP BEING FAITHFUL WHILST YOU CHILLAX IN CHRIST AS YOUR MAN/WOMAN WALKS UP TO YOU IN HIS/HER BEAUTIFUL POINTY SHOES.